10 Effective Strategies to Manage Holiday Stress and Enjoy the Festivities

December 17, 2024
The holiday season is often described as the most wonderful time of year, but for many of us, it can also bring increased stress. With family gatherings, holiday parties, and the pressures of gift-giving, it's easy to feel overwhelmed. It can also be challenging when the realities of the season don't meet our expectations. Here are ten strategies the clinicians at The Ross Center have put together to help you stay grounded, present, and joyful throughout the season.

  1. Set Realistic Goals and Expectations

It’s easy to envision a perfect holiday, but striving for perfection can lead to unnecessary stress. Instead, set realistic goals and focus on what truly matters. Whether it’s planning a family gathering or preparing for holiday parties, remind yourself that it’s okay if everything isn’t flawless. Your loved ones will appreciate your presence more than perfection. Its really about connection and community anyway, isn’t it? And if your plans aren't turning out the way you had hoped, serving at a soup kitchen or buying gifts for the needy can create a sense of fulfillment and connection to the community.

  1. Practice Deep Breathing

When the stresses of the holiday start to pile up, take a moment to breathe. Deep breathing exercises can calm your mind and reduce physical tension. Try inhaling slowly for a count of four, holding your breath for four seconds, and exhaling for four seconds. This simple practice can help you center yourself during moments when you're feeling overwhelmed. These strategies can center you, bring you back to the present, and help you reset.

  1. Prioritize Time with Family and Friends

Amid the hustle and bustle, don’t forget to spend time with the people who matter most. Whether it’s sharing a quiet meal or enjoying festive traditions, these connections are the heart of the holiday spirit. Quality time with family and friends can help you stay grounded and bring joy to the season. However when you need 'alone time', take it! Many of us need  time to reenergize and regroup by ourselves.

  1. Keep a Gratitude Journal

A gratitude journal can be a valuable way to manage holiday stress. Spend a few minutes each day writing down what you’re grateful for. This simple practice can redirect your focus from challenges to the things that truly matter. By fostering appreciation, gratitude can provide a sense of grounding and perspective at this season and throughout the year.

  1. Set Boundaries

The holidays often come with numerous demands, from family gatherings to work-related events. While it’s tempting to say yes to every opportunity, overcommitting can lead to burnout. Setting boundaries is essential for protecting your mental health. Politely decline activities that feel overwhelming and prioritize the ones that truly bring you joy. Use strategies like starting your response with “I really would love to but” or “I wish I was available but” to indicate your wish to do it all but need to protect your time and space.

  1. Limit Social Media Use

Social media can be a double-edged sword during the holidays. While it’s great for sharing memories, it can also create unrealistic expectations or trigger feelings of inadequacy. If scrolling through perfect holiday photos leaves you feeling overwhelmed, consider limiting your time on social media. Focus on real-life moments instead.

  1. Stay Mindful of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

For some, the holiday season coincides with seasonal affective disorder, a type of depression linked to shorter daylight hours. If you’re experiencing low energy or mood changes, consider light therapy, spending time outdoors during daylight, or consulting a mental health professional. Recognizing and addressing SAD is crucial for managing holiday stress effectively. If you are going into the season feeling less than 100%, make sure to reach out to your mental health provider to get on top of things.

  1. Embrace the Power of Saying No

At this time of year it’s easy to stretch yourself too thin. Learning to say no, kindly but firmly, can help you set realistic goals and prioritize your well-being. Remember, self-care is not selfish—it’s essential for maintaining your holiday spirit.

  1. Focus on the Joy of Giving, Not Perfection

Gift-giving can be a source of increased stress if you’re trying to find the “perfect” present for everyone. Instead, focus on the joy of giving from the heart. A thoughtful, simple gift often means more than an extravagant one. Keep in mind that your time and attention are some of the greatest gifts you can offer. Consider making donations to organizations that have real meaning for your intended recipient- this can be the best gift of all.

  1. Seek Support When Needed

If the holidays feel overwhelming, don’t hesitate to seek support. For many, this season can amplify feelings of loneliness or grief, even when it’s meant to be a time of joy. Connecting with a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional can offer meaningful relief. Sharing your feelings and struggles can be a crucial step toward finding balance and easing anxiety.

Finding Joy Amid the Chaos

The holiday season can be a time of joy, connection, and reflection if approached with mindfulness and intentionality. By practicing strategies like deep breathing, keeping a gratitude journal, and setting realistic expectations, you can navigate the challenges while fully embracing the season Remember, it’s important to prioritize your well-being. Whether it’s setting boundaries, spending time with family and friends, or seeking help from a mental health professional, these practices can help you manage holiday stress. Take a deep breath, focus on what truly matters, and enjoy the holiday season to its fullest. Contact Us if you're feeling overwhelmed and are looking for the support of a trusted mental health clinician.